The simple and short answer: The body! What is the body capable of experiencing? How does your body want to feel? What does your body love? These are questions that matter in the face of a massage session and sexual inquiry.
I love what happens to a person between arrival and departure of a massage. Right before they leave, the face is soft, their bodies relaxed and open, and a substantial difference in their sense of well-being.
Well: Opportunely. Being: Existence.
The idea that I might help people access “opportunely existence” lets me breath a little more deeply and joyfully into my own body. Reciprocation at my finger tips, quite literally.
I have always felt connected to spirit, yet a need to be in the body. To be here. To surrender to the ground. Both giving and receiving massage brought this idea home. Massage became a career and then something else happened. I started to wonder about sexuality. An experience in my body, with life, other lives (people), and the intricacies and nuance of relationship.
It has been a vast portal of mystery, and ultimately, a lot of unlearning. Becoming a sex educator really means becoming someone who wants to demystify the mixed messages we get from our cultures, families, religions and otherwise, and begin to build back up the wisdom, health and the confidence of the BODY. The individual and the collective BODY.
So having a body and taking care of it, and honoring its needs and wants is both part of massage therapy and part of sex education. They actually are a perfect pair. We can use the body to bring us into the present moment. We can also use the body as a portal to the universe. Massage and Sex (all the many ways to define sex), are access to the one vessel that carries us through experience. Sex education and massage together is utilizing the body for its wisdom as a means to get closer to accepting, and embracing ourselves as sexual beings. Allowing the body to be the guide versus our ideas and conditions given to us.
The idea of providing these services in tandem is to magnify the potential for “opportunely existence.” This, I hope we can see in each other as a real possibility.